Chronicles of a Reluctant Widower

What do you do when the most important person in the universe dies?

Well, apparently  you write about it on Facebook, make shitty jokes, and your posts go viral, with people asking to put them together in one bundle.  Well – here it is…

A Memoir on Love, Death and Life.

Available in South Africa at Exclusive Books, and all good books stores
Internationally available in all Amazon markets in both paperback and Kindle.


In December 2020 my wife, Andrea, died of breast cancer.

This sucks.


I’ve a lot to say about this matter, actually!

And boy, say it I did.

The day after Andrea died, I started posting semi-daily postings on Facebook, telling people about my feelings, my experiences, my emotions, and making crappy jokes to make myself feel better. I held nothing back, just let it all out for the world to see.

And boy, see it they did!

These social media entries went places. Several posts went viral, and I got messages of support — and urging me to continue — from places as far away as India and New Zealand. Some of those messages asked me when they will be available in book form, because people wanted to share my journey with others. Because my journey helped them. Y’know, this seems like a jolly good idea!

But there is a lot more to life than death.

Like how the skinny runt with the ponytail managed to get the girl, marry her in a literal fairy tale wedding, and (now fat and bald) live until death do us part. Like the importance of music, dogs, and cricket. …and stuffed animals.

But I digress.

I also have a lot to say about life after death, and carrying on as a reluctant widower. Because who the hell wants to be an enthusiastic one, anyway? How I plodded along after the most important thing in the universe died, and how I managed to get out the other side. If only just.

This is a book on Love, Death, and Life. And the most self-indulgent homage I can write to my wife.

I cannot wait to tell you all about it.

Beer’s on me.

Now Available 

Andrea and Laszlo

A portion of the profits of this book will go towards breast cancer research.

Play with boobs.  It may save a life.